Bf doesn't attend events?

Hi, last wk, it was my grandma's bday. My bf of 3 yrs (26 and I'm 25) was invited and he chose not to attend. He met my mom (once), not my close relatives. Yest, I was bridesmaid for my friend's wedding and was planned months in advance he would come. But at very last min., he told me couldn't come. His reasons are he is uncomfortable, and they are strangers to him, so what's the point of attending. The only function he attends is my bday (no-one else around). Strange part is that during our first yr, he attended almost all the functions I invited him to. He has social anxiety b/c for a potluck one time, he took social anxiety pills. Now, he backs out of everything. My friends/fam never said anything bad of him b/c it's impossible since he hardly met any of them. I attend all his fam/work events. He attends his friends' bdays. We discussed marriage. How can I get him to attend my friends/family functions?

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Have him get to know some of the people who attend the functions one on one over a period of time so that when a function comes up he at least knows some of the people. More one on one socialization is needed. And pick people you think will be the friendliest.

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Wow it seems like he's scared of meeting your family. I mean sure he's probably met them before but now that you two have been together for so long he's getting nervous about meeting his possible future in- laws. Who knows. But you should try and make him feel comfortable to try and to attend the events. Show him that it will mean a lot to you. Do a puppy dog face. Or you can trick him into going. That would be fun. Honestly i wouldnt know.
You need to explain how important this is to you. It's a big part of a serious relationship to take interest in your partner's family and friends, and even if he has anxiety issues, it's not fair that you're there for his family and he's not there for yours. If he's going to be with you for a long time, he'll eventually need to learn how to deal with your family. You really need to sit down with him and not talk at him - but talk about solutions you can both come up with as to how he can feel more comfortable with your family.

However, since he came to things in the beginning of your relationship, I would be concerned that now he's just using his social anxiety as an excuse to get out of attending these functions. If that's the case, he just needs to step up and you need to tell him that.